“Intimacy, says the phenomenologist Gaston Bachelard, is the highest value.
I resist this statement at first. What about artistic achievement, or moral courage, or heroism, or altruistic acts, or work in the cause of social change? What about wealth or accomplishment? And yet something about it rings true, finally - that what we want is to be brought into relation, to be inside, within. Perhaps it’s true that nothing matters more to us than that.
But then why resist intimacy, why seem to flee it? A powerful countercurrent pulls against our drive toward connection; we also desire individuation, separateness, freedom. On one side of the balance is the need for home, for the deep solid roots of place and belonging; on the other is the desire for travel and motion, for the single separate spark of the self freely moving forward, out into time, into the great absorbing stream of the world.
A fierce internal debate, between staying moored and drifting away, between holding on and letting go. Perhaps wisdom lies in our ability to negotiate between these two poles. Necessary to us, both of them - but how to live in connection without feeling suffocated, compromised, erased? We long to connect; we fear that if we do, our freedom and individuality will disappear.”—Mark Doty, from Still Life With Oysters and Lemon (via rustbeltjessie)
“Mindfulness meditation doesn’t change life. Life remains as fragile and unpredictable as ever. Meditation changes the heart’s capacity to accept life as it is. It teaches the heart to be more accommodating, not by beating it into submission, but by making it clear that accommodation is a gratifying choice.”—Sylvia Boorstein (via yogachocolatelove)
“Their fortunes in India have varied throughout the ages. They are mentioned derisively in the Hindu epic, the Mahabharata, but were influential in the royal household during the Mughal period when they were trusted as courtiers and harem guards.
Today many of those living in eunuch communities have been rejected by their families either because they were born with deformed genitalia or were effeminate. Some of them have undergone distressing and dangerous village castrations to become hijras.
In its ruling, the Supreme Court said the Indian constitution provides equal opportunity “irrespective of caste, religion or gender”. Justice K.S. Radhakrishnan said the “recognition of transgender (people) as a third gender is not a social or medical issue but a human rights issue.””—
Not talking about money is a tool of class war. A culture that forbids employees from comparing salaries helps companies pay women and minorities less. Ignoring the mercenary grit behind success leads to quasi-religious abundance gurus claiming you can visualize your way to wealth.
… It’s easy to say that if people are just good enough, work hard enough, ask enough, believe enough, they will be like us.
But it’s a lie. Winning does not scale. We may be free beings, but we are constrained by an economic system rigged against us. What ladders we have are being yanked away. Some of us will succeed. The possibility of success is used to call the majority of people failures.
“Every morning put your shoulders back. Hold your head up high. Remind yourself you are not weak. You are not defeated. You are strong. You are equipped, anointed, and well able. The right perspective can move mountains no matter where you have come from. Your past does not define you. It prepares you for your destiny.”—Keira Henninger (via robbsrunning)
“The gods knew the man deserved it… but young Sam was watching him, across thirty years. When we break down, it all breaks down. That’s just how it works. You can bend it, and if you make it hot enough you can bend it in a circle, but you can’t break it. When you break it, it all breaks down until there’s nothing unbroken. It starts here and now. He lowered the sword.”—Night Watch - Terry Pratchett (via nightbringer24)
“Do not avoid contact with suffering or close your eyes before suffering. Do not lose awareness of the existence of suffering in the life of the world. Find ways to be with those who are suffering by all means, including personal contact and visits, images, sounds. By such means, …awaken yourself and others to the reality of suffering in the world. If we get in touch with the suffering of the world, and are moved by that suffering, we may come forward to help the people who are suffering.”— Thích Nhất Hạnh (via purplebuddhaproject)
Yesterday I helped someone who was helping me by cleaning and organizing my kitchen. He was working pretty fast, so I didn’t pave myself as well as I usually do.
I also had it on my “schedule” to go for a walk with someone else, to try to exercise more. It was 92°F. I brought a bottle of very cold water, and brought an umbrella for shade because since when do I worry about looking weird in public? Sure, im weird. Weird like a fox!
So I ended feeling sick last night for a while. I’ve had worse, though. And I ended up in bed all morning getting more sleep that usual.
But I seem to be back to merely my normal level of crappy tiredness, instead of fully incapacitated, so… Yay!?
“When Christianity gains power over others, it gains the very things which Satan offered to Jesus, and which Jesus rejected (Luke 4:1-13). When the church falls to these temptations, the church becomes more of a tool of Satan than of the Savior.”—Against a Christian Government (via azspot)