In my High School debate tournaments there was this kid with a out of this world name - something like Orion Cosmos.
You’d think with a name like that, this poor kid would kinda look like somebody who’d been teased a lot. Who shrugged when spoken to, who would hate to introduce himself during roll call, who would dread the question “So what kind of name is THAT?”
And it was the opposite. Orion Cosmos was awesome. Everybody liked him. He was happy to introduce himself and his weird name. He was magnetic, and was famous in debate circles for learning circular breathing: he could breath while he spoke and thus didn’t have to pause to take breathes during speech debates. His confidence was endearing and infectious.
That kid totally owned his name. Reminds me of Die Hard, when John McClane was figuring out Zeus Carver’s name for the first time: “Zeus?” “Yeah Zeus! As in, father of Apollo? Mt. Olympus? Don’t fuck with me or I’ll shove a lightning bolt up your ass? Zeus! You got a problem with that?” “No, I don’t have a problem with that.” Zeus Carver definitely knew who he was and one of the reasons why Die Hard II was better than the original.
In high school we’re trying to figure out how to be social. There were kids who tried everything to get friends: wear the trendiest clothes, get the latest gadgets, gossip, do whatever their friends said so they could be part of the club. Then there were the kids who had come into their own, who knew who they were and what they wanted. The latter kids were naturally attractive and popular. And the former kids, well I think most of us figured it out by adulthood: trying to please everyone isn’t attractive.
Being who you were meant to be is naturally attractive. It doesn’t matter if you have a weird name like Orion Cosmos or Zeus Carver, or your age or ability. We all admire people who come into their own, from all walks of life. They know their insecurities, and have some control over them instead of ignoring them and being controlled by insecurity.
In part II, I’ll talk about changing the name of Unitarian Universalism, and why this all matters, but I’m sure you can make some connections yourself.
Now I want to change the family name to Cosmos.